Military Families

IEP Information for Parents
The Army Community Service (ACS) EFMP invites parents who have children with
special needs and disabilities to a special meeting with Pro-Parents of South
Carolina.  The guest speaker will talk about the Individual Education Plan
(IEP), how the process works and answer questions and concerns you may have
about IEPs and your child.  Please join us on Thursday, 28 February, 5 pm at the
Balfour Beatty Community Center, located in the Family Housing area 520 Brown

The meeting is open to Soldiers, Family members and Civilians.
Please call ACS for additional information at 751-5256.

South Carolina National Guard Website

Coming Home: Adjustments For Military Families

We are always looking for new ways to assist our Military Families.
We found these great fact sheets from and would like to pass them on to you.




June 26th 2012 @ 1:00pm
This National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN) webinar in the Military and Civilian Partnerships Series will present current efforts by community-based organizations to support U.S. Military Family Advocacy Programs related to issues of child abuse and child maltreatment. This presentation will describe evidence-based interventions and coordinated models of care for addressing issues of child abuse in military families.


Give Army Parents a Break!
No Cost Child Care –
A Benefit for Army Families
Take a break and run errands, read a book, go to a movie,
go to the gym, attend doctor appointments,
grocery shop or do whatever you want!
Provides child care to Families of deployed Army National Guard anddeployed Army Reserve Soldiers, and Army Recruiters, Drill Sergeants, and ROTC Cadre.
With the “Give Army Parents a Break” program, if you are the spouse or designated Guardian for a geographically dispersed Army Recruiter, Drill Sergeant, ROTC Cadet Cadre (trainer) you are eligible for up to 8 hours of child care every month for each child through age 12.
Deployed Army National Guard and deployed Army Reserve Families can access up to 16 hours per month of respite child care in a South Carolina state licensed and annually inspected child care program for children through age 12.
A mobile application for smartphones and tablets is now available for the Co-occurring Conditions Toolkit: Mild Traumatic Brain Injury and Psychological Health from the Defense Centers of Excellence for Psychological Health and Traumatic Brain Injury (DCoE). This mobile app is designed for use by primary care providers to evaluate and treat patients experiencing a mild traumatic brain injury (TBI) and common co-occurring conditions such as PTSD, depression, chronic pain, and substance use disorder.
This new Department of Defense website provides military children a safe, fun, interactive place where they can build resilience and learn coping skills to help deal with the challenges of having a deployed family member.
Check It Out: Finding Common Ground Toolkit
North Carolina National Guard (NC NG) is one of the pilot sites that helped develop the Activity Guide for military families released in our last e-newsletter and has been using activities from the Guide since 2006. Read our interview with Alice Dean, State Youth Coordinator, to learn how NC NG has adapted the activities over time, which ones are surefire favorites, and about the plans that NC NG has to roll out these activities statewide.
Hero Miles’ Program Supports Families of Fallen, Wounded
Nominations Open for Military Child of the Year Award
SAMHSA Releases New Resources!
The following three military families resources explore the nature and scope of substance use and mental disorders among military service members and examine the strength of the system to address these problems as well as efforts underway to improve our ability to support military service members and their families.
This publication provides information on how systems of care and trauma-informed services can improve the lives of children and youth who have experienced traumatic events and includes findings from a national evaluation of such programs and describes common treatment approaches.
The Real Warriors Campaign has gone mobile. Visit

No. 89; March 2011
Click here to download and print a PDF version of this document.

Military families look forward to being together after a long deployment with many mixed emotions.  Each family member will have different expectations.  Every family situation is different.  However it is important to remember the needs and feelings of the returning family member, the adult at home and the children.

Understanding the Returning Family Member

  • Military deployments, especially in a combat zone, can significantly change an individual’s life.
  • The deployment involved the loss of many comforts that people back home take for granted: contact with family, comfortable living conditions, a variety of good food, time to relax, etc.
  • The deployment involved hard work and enormous responsibility. If in a war zone, there was the constant threat of loss of life or injury. The family member may have witnessed injuries, deaths and destruction.
  • What sustains military personnel on a dangerous deployment is devotion to duty, a close connection with fellow soldiers and the desire to return to the comforts of home, family and community.
  • The returning family member may seem preoccupied with the experience of their deployment.  They may be unable to talk about it or may excessively talk about it.
  • The returning family member may have suffered physical or emotional injury or disability.
  • The returning family member may expect extra attention and support for some time after their return.
  • The returning family member may have serious concerns about their financial or employment future.

Understanding the Adult that Stayed at Home

  • Life has gone on and the adult at home has had to keep the family moving forward during the deployment.  They may have had to take over many functions normally performed by the deployed family member.
  • Often the adult at home has handled many small and not so small crises.  These problems are old news at home but may be big surprises for the returning family member.
  • The adult at home may expect extra attention and credit regarding the performance during the deployment.  They also may expect the returning family members to automatically accept the family as it now exists and begin to perform a role with which they are uncomfortable
    or unfamiliar.

Understanding the Children

  • Children generally are excited about a reunion with their returning parent.  However, the excitement of the reunion is stressful for children. Children may also be anxious and uncertain about the reunion.
  • Children’s responses are influenced by their developmental level.  Toddlers may not remember the parent well and act shy or strange around them.  School age children may not understand the returning parent’s need to take care of themselves and to spend time with their spouse.  Teenagers may seem distant as they continue their activities with friends.
  • Children may need a period of time to warm up and readjust to the returning parent.  This should not be misinterpreted or taken personally.

Understanding the Family

  • Couples may find the deployment has strained their relationship.  Time and negotiation will help the couple work toward a new loving relationship.
  • Family problems that existed before the deployment frequently reappear after the deployment.
  • Extended family members such as grandparents, aunts and uncles may have provided support and service to the family during the deployment.  They may have difficulty redefining their role with the family.

Give Everyone Time

  • All family members will need time to adjust to the changes that accompany the return of the deployed family member.
  • Open discussion of expectations prior to the return home are helpful if they are possible.
  • Families should utilize the help offered by the military and other organizations to readjust to the reunion.
  • Most families will change.  Children have been born or have grown.  An adult at home may have become more independent.  The returning family member had a life changing experience.  The goal is to form a healthy, new life together.

Reunion of a military family after a long deployment is a cause for celebration. Some patience and understanding will go a long way to help the whole family successfully reunite with a minimum of problems.  While most families cope successfully with the stress of the deployment and following reunion, problems can develop.  If significant problems develop, the family should seek help from a qualified mental health professional.

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